RealOptions presents adoption as a loving and empowering option for women and their partners who may not feel ready to parent but desire to give their child a family.
Adoption is introduced through compassionate coaching, as we work with modern, open, and licensed adoption agencies. We also discuss kinship adoption, in which a family member adopts the child.
Patients are informed that they have the opportunity to create a personalized adoption plan and choose the type of ongoing relationship they wish to have with their child. This approach supports the emotional well-being of the child, birth parents, and adoptive parents, fostering healthy, lifelong connections.
Modern adoption has evolved significantly, and many people are surprised by how flexible, compassionate, and empowering the process can be today. Here are the key benefits of considering modern (also called open or ethical) adoption when facing an unintended pregnancy:
1. You stay in control of the process
Modern adoption is centered around the birth parent’s choices. You can typically decide:
- The type of adoption (open, semi-open, or closed)
- The adoptive family
- Your birth plan
- How much contact you want before and after placement
You’re not “giving up”—you’re making decisions based on your values and comfort level.
2. Open adoption allows ongoing connection
Most modern adoptions are open or semi-open, which can include:
- Updates through photos, letters, or messages
- Scheduled visits or video calls
- Direct relationship with the adoptive family
This maintains a connection with your child without assuming full parenting responsibilities.
3. Emotional support and counseling are typically provided
Reputable adoption agencies and clinics offer:
- Pregnancy support
- Post-placement counseling
- Support groups
- Grief and healing resources
These services can continue long after the adoption, helping you process emotions and feel supported.
4. Financial assistance is often available
Depending on your state, you may receive help with:
- Medical bills
- Housing
- Groceries
- Maternity clothing
- Transportation
- Legal fees
This support is meant to reduce stress so you can make a clear decision.
5. Legal protections ensure your rights
Modern adoption law emphasizes:
- Informed consent
- No pressure or coercion
- The ability to change your mind before signing legal documents
- Independent legal representation for the birth parent
Your rights are recognized and protected throughout the process.
6. You can choose a family that aligns with your values
You can select a family based on:
- Lifestyle
- Faith
- Parenting philosophy
- Interests
- Location
- Openness to future contact
Many birth parents find comfort in knowing who will raise their child.
7. Your child gains stability and long-term opportunity
Adoptive families go through extensive screening and must demonstrate:
- Financial stability
- Emotional readiness
- Safe, supportive home environments
Many birth parents appreciate knowing their child will have strong resources and opportunities.
8. You can pursue your personal goals
Choosing adoption can allow you to:
- Continue your education
- Focus on your career
- Care for existing children
- Create long-term stability
Modern adoption recognizes that love for your child includes making the best decision for your situation.
If you are exploring open adoption, we offer information and resources to educate you on this option. It is very important that you determine what is best for you now and in the future. Call or book an appointment online at one of our Bay Area locations.
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Oakland, CA 94609
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San Jose, CA 95127
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Union City, CA 94857
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